Ojiugo's Diary

Tag: Marital problems

  • Lie! Your Life Depends on It

    Dear Ojiugo, One of the rookie mistakes I made while dating my ex-husband was telling him my body count. I’m writing this so young ladies will learn.  Way before we got married, I had a hoe phase at university. Bear in mind that I hadn’t met my ex at this point. For him, I was…

  • Your Being Special Has An Expiry Date

    Before encountering the wanna-be, I thought that nothing my ex does would affect me deeply anymore. I actually believed that lie. But sitting at the edge of my bed, watching this human being try to be me in my old house, set something off inside me. There was probably something in the way she held…

  • Women Shelve Their Friendships For Marriage

    The night my marriage ended, my head felt like it was minutes away from exploding. I needed to speak to someone who understands me. Unfortunately, I had ostracised every one of them. My circle was now made of people I couldn’t trust.  I called a friend I hadn’t spoken to in years. It was late,…

  • What a Broken Heart Feels Like

    Can one capture the essence of this state? Let me try. I’ve been heartbroken before. You should know this. So, it is definitely not my first rodeo. But this time is different. This experience is more mature and serious than the last, not just because the relationship lasted longer and more lives are involved, but…

  • Episode 4: A Policeman Drove Into A Ditch For Me

    After years of being married to an emotionally abusive man, I found my confidence again in the most absurd way. Before getting married, marriage was this beautiful union that edified both partners. In my wildest imaginations, I could never have imagined marriage to be as demeaning as mine turned out to be. Here’s my story…

  • Episode 2: Life After Divorce

    Dear Diary, Marriage is one of the few reasons your African parents will forsake you. Try telling them you’re giving up on a failing marriage. That is when you’ll realize the part you play in their lives’ status game. Very few African parents will give in to losing face in society by welcoming back their…

  • Episode 1: How My Marriage Ended

    Dear Diary, “I don’t feel sexually attracted to you anymore”. “It feels like you’re just my roommate”. These were the words that Dozie, my husband of five years used to explain why he would no longer touch me. In the last six months, we had almost no sex, and I kept prodding to know why.…